LOCAL comedian, Nigel “Tha Slick Pastor” Maritinyu, reckons men go through a lot, but keep the pain to themselves.
The comedian, who is also a motivational speaker, said women are not the only ones who need emotional support, but men also need it.
“Not taking anything away from the ladies, but I feel like men go through a lot, especially young men who are navigating the building stage of their lives.
“It’s either you have a lot of time for your family and no money to support them or you are busy trying to make ends meet, which ends up taking a lot of your time hence depriving your family of your presence.
“The world demands a lot from the man. The wife needs attention, love, understanding and also provisions. The world requires your labour and service in exchange for means to sustain your livelihood,” he said.
The comedian added that men are always in competition with themselves since society sees them as strong and fearless.
They are not encouraged to outwardly express their emotions, which lead them to turn to alcohol, pornography, womanising, drug and substance abuse, absenteeism, fits of rage and they become suicidal.
“The man is constantly in competition, either with other men or circumstances of nature. At almost every turn and instance, the head of the family is constantly thinking and plotting, devising and scheming ways to survive and meet his family’s expectations.
“He is also human, sometimes all he wants is to sit and enjoy TV with his family without the threat of bills intruding his mind.
“Everyday men are faced with situations that challenge them. Will I make enough this month, am I satisfying my partner, will I retain my job in this recession, is my health alright with all the stress I’m constantly under? So many questions, very few answers most of the time.
“Of all the things I have listed, I feel that the biggest burden is not even these problems, but the greatest pain for the man is going through these challenges and feeling no one understands him.
“I don’t approve, justify or condone being an alcoholic, a womaniser, someone who watches pornography, an absentee figure, someone who goes through fits of rage, a drug and substance abuser, or a suicidal person. I tend to understand how many end up turning to these behaviours.
“Most times these behaviours and patterns begin as an escape channel, trying to avoid facing the beckoning reality with each passing second,” he said.
He said that men also need time to sit and relax without worrying about anything.
“Do you know it’s very normal for a man to want to just sit there and be quiet for eight hours straight, because life is tiring man and even talking becomes such a task.
“This is why someone came up with the idea of a ‘man cave’, a room at home you can just retreat to and be yourself enjoying your own company, but kuno unoita man cave ipi uchiroja mu two rooms. May God help all men,” he said.