The media is dominated by a lot of stories of fights between couples caused by adulterous affairs.
A good number of these fights have resulted in death. Early this week, one such death was of an infant after the mother was attacked by four ladies accused of having an affair with one of the perpetrators’ husband.
However, most times it is men who perpetrate such violence, especially against their wives and many times women have died under such attacks.
Adultery is indeed a sin, and a grave one – before God and even before man. It is a gross violation of the principles upon which marriage is built and should never be condoned.
Both marriage parties shall stay true to each other and must not break the vows they made (if they are married under chapter 5:11) or the principle of faithfulness upon which any other marriage is built.
It is, therefore, wrong of any wife to be adulterous, no matter her excuse. Even when the woman’s husband also has his fair share of affairs, while wrong, that is not a justification for any woman’s unfaithfulness because two wrongs do not make a right.
In the same light husbands who physically abuse their wives for cheating could never have an explanation for the violent attacks of their wives.
Whatever the wives do, and it does not matter how many times they have done so, violence is never the answer to these problems.
A simple mistake could easily turn these violent husbands into murderers and the fact that the lady would have cheated is certainly no defence. Murder is murder, regardless of the wrong the other person would have done.
Men, especially, must realize that violence is not a solution to any problem they may have with their wives. Reports of domestic violence dominate the media and range amongst the popular at the magistrates courts largely because of men who think violence is a remedy.
In the majority of cases, domestic violence is the main catalyst towards the collapse of marriages and women and children are usually the victims.
Married people should spare a moment for the children in particular, as fighting between parents, even before a breakup, causes a lot of emotional stress to the children and this develops a violent attitude in the children as well.
Research shows that children who grow up in violent homes are likely to turn into violent marriage mates themselves.
Married people should just stay away from violent conduct.
We are living in times where rights are spelt out from as early as ECD and both men and women must grow up knowing that violence is never a solution.